For me

I was going to go back and remove old posts since this blog is terribly outdated but I'm not. I don't really care about the old posts. They all applied to whatever was happening in my life at the time and they can stay. I'm pretty sure nobody actually reads this and that's okay too. I just like to write. I like to write about all the things rattling around in my head that don't always make sense. I like to write about the random things my kids say, the things I wish I could say but don't, the good and the bad. I just like to write. I may not do it well, I may not be a facebook internet sensation and I may be the only one that reads any of it...but that's okay.

Here, this is my place. This is the place where I can just do or say whatever I want and I'm not answering anyone. I'm not out to impress anyone, I'm not worrying that someone will judge me. If they do, too bad, get out of my space.

My space.

Just me.

Me and many stories about my kids and my husband because let's face it. I can only write so much about myself without them. Me, Myself, and I. We're not all that entertaining and even though it's just me here, I still like to be entertained.

Thirteen

It's Christmas night.

Thirteen years ago was my due date with Aiden. I had just turned 22 and even though I was going to have a baby any day, I still knew nothing. I did know that he (although at the time I didn't even know he was a he!) wasn't coming that night. Call it mother's intuition or call it just being stubborn, I had plans and we were following through. We spent the morning with my parents and then headed to see Jared's family. It was snowing but it was only a 45 minute drive and we were staying over. No big deal. Both sides tried to convince us that we shouldn't go but we did anyway and it's a good thing since Aiden decided to wait another 2 weeks before making is grand entrance in to the world.

Now...now it's Christmas night 2015 and I'm sitting here going through a baby book, looking at pictures of the day my now almost teenager was born. I.have.a.teen.ager. Let that sink in.

I. Have. A. Teen. Ager. Well, in 2 weeks I will.


I just turned 35 last month and I had a really hard time with it. I didn't think I would. 25 was fine, 30 was easy...but 35? Fuck, 35 was rough. I can't say why exactly, maybe it's because I knew that it wasn't just a milestone for me. If I'm getting older these little humans that live with me and depend on me are getting older too.

So here I am. I'd love to say that I'm 35 and I'm in the best shape of my life and exactly where I'm supposed to be. You know, one of those uplifting posts that gets shared all over facebook. The truth is, I'm probably in the worst shape of my life, I'm kind of in this weird place where I'm just not sure what I'm doing and damnit, my kids are growing up too damn fast!

Thirteen years ago I didn't know much and I didn't think much beyond getting through the whole birth part of having a baby. Now...now I still don't know much but all I think about are the what ifs, the am I doing this whole parenting thing right, the questions...endless questions about what the hell I am doing in this big bad world of trying to help raise respectable young men while at the same time wanting them to be themselves. That shit is scary. Teenagers are scary!

For the next few weeks if you see me randomly tear up...or if I seem to be drinking even more wine than usual, you'll know why.

In the meantime...I have an epic birthday party that needs to be planned. Thirteen is big...and as such, must be celebrated to the fullest extent of my ability. And my wallet.

Perspective

The kids had a long weekend with no school Friday or Monday, you know because all those snow days didn't give them enough days off. Really?! Anyway we took them to Kalahari for a night, I had to pick them up early on Thursday and they had to miss their Valentines Day parties but it was the only way to make it worth it. Even with the deal rooms were expensive and I wanted to be able to take full advantage of the waterpark. Of course, as it always happens, we were running late and missed a good 3 hours of swim time.
The park was nice, only one area was really warm though. The water near the slides for my 5 year old was really kind of chilly. The hot tubs were nice but the swim up bar was under construction while we were there. The little guy was just done by Friday afternoon and ended up playing his DS rather then even swimming.
The kids really liked the arcade but it was expensive and we spent way more then I would have liked for them to pick out some crappy candy and dollar store toys. Oh and the air hockey table lacked air. wth!?
We only stayed the one night and came home on Friday which also happened to be Valentines Day. We were all tired so no fun themed dinners for us. HH and I don't really celebrate anyway but I couldn't help but be jealous of all the posts on Facebook with steak dinners, flowers and cupcakes. I made a heart themed breakfast on Saturday and gave the boys their little treats I'd picked up for them.

They ended up going to my parents house that night, which wasn't planned, so it made for an impromptu date night. We had gift cards we wanted to use but the only reservation we could get was 9pm, I hate eating late but we took it anyway. Of course it's just my luck that I couldn't find one of our gift cards that I could have sworn was in my car AND when we got to my parents house we got a call from the bank that someone was trying to take hundreds of dollars out of our account. Freaking awesome way to start date night!
We headed out to grab a coffee and walk around the mall, I wanted to find jeans and had no luck. I never have luck, I'm going to wear baggy jeans that don't fit forever.
We got to dinner and it was delicious even if they were out of the dinner HH wanted and the drink I was told I *had* to try. Overall it was a pretty nice night but all things must come to an end. The eldest child has been fighting us every step of the way on finishing a paper that is due tomorrow. It's going to be a long Monday off!

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It's a long weekend for the kids, no school on Friday OR today! Thursday they had their Valentines parties but since we were leaving for Kalahari I gave them the option of staying for the party or leaving early. They eagerly chose to leave early and luckily HH has a pretty flexible schedule and we could do that. Kalahari was great, the kids had an absolute blast and we went with our friends and their kids so everyone, even the adults, had someone to hang out and swim with. Win Win for everyone involved! Ian absolutely loved the big wave pool which worked out b/c it was also the warmest area aside from the hot tubs (omg, hot tubs! I can't wait to go back and take advantage of the swim up bar when they're finished with the expansion!) Aiden had a blast on all of the crazy big slides, especially the "toilet bowl", I barely saw him while inside the park! This was his birthday present and I'd say it went over pretty well :) We checked in around 3 and hit the park until dinner and then headed back down once our friends arrived for another few hours before closing. Friday we were able to stay and swim some more, eat lunch and do the arcade before heading home. Ian was exhausted by that point so it was the perfect amount of time for us.

Friday was Valentines Day but we were SO tired we just hung out and played games, watched tv and were generally lazy. It was kind of fabulous. Saturday morning I did give the boys their little treats and made a themed breakfast.

HH and I don't generally celebrate but we ended up with a sitter at the last minute so we dropped the kids with grandma and grandpa and headed out. I have to admit that after seeing all the facebook posts with fancy dinners and desserts, I was happy to be getting out. Then again, I'm always happy when we get a date night! Being such a busy weekend I wasn't sure we'd be able to get in anywhere but scored a 9pm reservation for a new place we had gift cards for. We wanted to make the most of our evening alone so we grabbed a cup of coffee and walked around the mall. Yes, the mall. It was fun, we laughed at the RIDICULOUS clothes that are trendy right now and the kids walking around (yes, I realize that officially make us old!) and I tried to find a pair of jeans that fit but no dice. One of these days I'll find them. Needing new jeans because I've lost weight is awesome but finding them? That's a whole other ordeal! It was fun just walking around together and talking without little people needing something.
When we got back out to the car we still had time to kill, so what else to do...but make out in the car like teenagers. If you haven't done this with your husband, I highly recommend it. Sometimes it's fun to just pretend like you're young and in love and can't keep your hands off each other ;)
Dinner was ah.ma.zing. So so good, everything we tried. We still have another gift card to use (that they were kind enough to replace since I'm pretty sure I accidentally threw ours away while cleaning out my car. yea. whoops!) so I can't wait to try more of the menu. It was the perfect date night, I think sometimes that unplanned nights are so much better then the ones I try to figure out down to the last detail. We slept in on Sunday, I picked the kids up and then headed out for my first ever Bunco. Fun times my friends, fun times!
We're ending the weekend with homework and chores, time to get back to real life but it sure was nice to put it on hold for the weekend.
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So the above are two recaps of the exact same weekend. Life is all about what you choose to focus on. If you focus on all the things that went wrong, you're going to miss all the things around you that are just right. The second recap is exactly how I see the weekend. I could have easily let all the things that didn't go smoothly ruin my weekend but I chose not to. 

Choose to be happy. Choose to see the good in what is around you, even when things aren't going exactly the way you'd like.

The card from our 11 year old. Yea, awwwww.

A month has gone by

Wow, I'm not sure where the month of May went. I swear it was just here but in a few short hours it'll be June 1st.

School is out and we're home from our mini family vacation to Great Wolf Lodge. I'll be posting a full review with all of my budget tips soon. I want to put all the things I wanted to know on my blog for others to find, Pinterest is great, but even it couldn't answer some of my questions. Shocking, I know.

In other news...well, there's just not much. Maybe that's how I missed the month of May. We were busy going through the motions of day to day life and that's not exactly exciting blog material.

I have a little man that's turning 5 and I have one week to get his birthday party put together. It's going to be crazy and I hope I'll blog about it...but you know, I don't think I've blogged about the Nerf party for the 10 year old that happened in January. Hmmm.

A friend of mine, over at Chatter From a Single Mom, is doing 30 Thing My Kid Should Know About Me. I think it's a pretty cool idea for when I have nothing else to write about and might start it. Maybe. But you know, I'm the master of starting things I don't finish.

Hmmm, this was a terribly boring post but I'm going to publish it anyway so that it can't be added to the list of things I don't finish. :)